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Love is Strange

2012-03-04T16:47:00.002-08:00

Everyone Knows

2012-01-10T08:58:00.000-08:00

Everyone knows dangling carrots of false hope opens doors truthfulness would have remained closed. Few realize perfect honesty creates the window of opportunity for happiness that is beyond comprehension. Eventually, giving up on the hope of meeting that perfect someone who can miraculously make everything feel so right, people decide to compromise for the sake of having children, and share the burden of their discontent with their families. The bittersweet joy of having made such a sacrifice is comforting at times, but far from blissful contentment.

People invest faith in concepts like ascension, reincarnation and salvation because the use of false hope creates a need for real hope. Peace that is beyond comprehension exists. It descends by the grace of truth alone. With false hope, there is no hope. All is lost. Accept this, and you will discover true bliss... if you have the courage and determination to do what it takes to create a soul for yourself, and share it with another. To succeed at basking in the sacred tremor long enough to be transformed requires adequate preparation. It is a process that cannot be rushed. A pure heart, body and mind are necessary. Lovers must be fit, healthy and in perfect divine alignment. There is no other way to consciously and deliberately become one soul resonating in two bodies. A wholly genuine union is the result of complete surrender.

If only I had a magic wand that I could wave and make divine love happen to you, insuring the soul you are in the process of creating, will merge with eternal bliss. But I can only simply point the way, hoping those who are themselves capable will not stray.

Happy Ending

2011-11-21T14:35:00.000-08:00

A man recently asked me for advice because his friends were encouraging him to hire a masseuse that provides happy endings. But he was having trouble finding one. He wanted to know if I would please tell him how to make sure that he is going to get his penis rubbed when he gets a massage, because all of the massage therapists keep hanging up on him when he asks.

This is what I told him-

"As absurd as it may seem, having sexual contact with the intention of sexual arousal or sexual gratification in exchange for money, is illegal.

What two people do in private, however, once they have gotten to know each other, is a matter of personal choice. You and your masseuse can have sex, if you want, as long as it occurs after the massage is over, and there is no additional charge for it. But asking for sexual services on the telephone, is absurd and dangerous. And nobody wants to massage dangerous people.

My advice is that you become willing to invest in a massage, or two, or three, and get to know the therapists personally. Who knows? One of them might decide she likes you and enjoy serving your needs. But if you continue to seek what you are looking for in the manner that you are going about it, you will get arrested, sooner or later.

If I were looking for an open-minded massage therapist, I would consider the price, how long she has been in business, whether or not she requires draping, as well as whether she works out of her home, or an office. Another way to increase your odds of picking a masseuse who enjoys going above and beyond the call of duty, is to join a website that allows customers to post reviews of massage service providers. Then you can talk to members behind closed doors and find out who they recommend. But don't ever forget that your mileage may vary.

Massage therapists are human beings with individual tastes and preferences. They are NOT the slaves of their potential clients sexual needs. It is impossible to know, without meeting someone in person, and getting to know them, whether or not it would be comfortable proceeding to something more intimate than a massage.

If you want a massage therapist to promise that she will provide sexual contact without meeting you, how can she make sure you won't show up filthy? People who ask perfect strangers to break the law over the telephone are much more likely to do that, you know. And how can she make sure that you don't have warts on your penis? Or that you won't have one of those horrible contagious crotch rashes? Many men don't even know they have this, because they've never bent over and looked in the mirror at their butts.

Would you be willing to spend your money in advance and secure an appointment with somebody who promised to provide sexual gratification? What if she was sick and filthy when you met her in person? What if she smelled horrible? Would you go ahead and collect your prepaid sexual gratification anyway? I hope not. So why are you looking for a masseuse who will indiscriminately promise to do something illegal with you when you call her on the telephone? Is that the kind of person you really want massaging your penis? I hope not.

I encourage you to rearrange your priorities and have more reasonable expectations. Your need for reassurance is dangerous and indiscreet. You are making an illegal request. People who make such requests are either police officers looking to arrest someone, or simply ignorant people, who are so desperate for sexual contact, that they will take dangerous risks. People who repeatedly take dangerous risks eventually get arrested.

Because if you manage to find someone who promises to give you a happy ending, and you buy a massage from her, then she will most likely turn out to be an undercover cop pretending to be a masseuse. When you give her the money, police officers will emerge from behind closed doors, and arrest you. Instead of asking for guarantees, trust in your ability to make friends and influence women. Embrace the mystery. Would it really be so terribly bad to get a few massages without a happy ending, in order to find somebody who really likes your energy, enjoys your company, and feels inspired to please you in such a manner?

Massage therapists are educated professionals. They expect to be treated with respect. Asking them to break the law is dangerous and indiscreet. Massage is a legitimate service. Men who request prostitution from massage therapists convey a troubled sense of neediness and hunger. It is no fun to work with men who are so controlling. You are buying a massage, not riding dressage. Enjoy your massage bareback and bridleless. It's lot more fun and exciting.

Please consider that the intensity of your sexual needs are driving you to do dangerous things. Is the promise of prostitution the only thing that can motivate you to spend your money on a massage?

The Case for Hands on Adult Sex Education

2011-11-12T19:52:00.000-08:00

If having sex for money is a misdemeanor, doing it for free should be a felony. Prostitution remains illegal because men believe they are slaves to their own biological urges. And as long as men think they are slaves to their biological urges, women will be pressured into kowtowing to mans compelling biological urges and service them, hence society's need to regulate how it is done.

When prostitution is decriminalized, men will have the luxury of shopping around until they know what they want, and gain experience that will increase the odds of them having a satisfying and successful love life in marriage. The reason so many marriages end in divorce is because there is no legitimate venue for people to gain the sexual skill and competence they need to have a happy honeymoon. And the honeymoon is what sets the stage for passion in the rest of a marriage.

There are certain things, such as trembling debilitating performance anxiety, that cannot be overcome without hands on experience. And the honeymoon is the worst place in the world to discover this. Everyone hopes and expects their honeymoon to be a romantic and happy occasion. And it should be. Too often, it is not.

I shall offer you and example. When I was in high school, an older friend of mine got married. The next time I saw her, I expected her to be glowing and happy like she was at the wedding. But she was not. I asked her what was wrong, and she burst into tears. "His penis is crooked!" she said. I was shocked. I had no idea that penises could be crooked. Needless to say, their marriage did not last.

Now that I've been around the world a few times, I know that penises come in all shapes and sizes. There is nothing wrong with a crooked penis. In fact, crooked penises can be tremendous assets. With the proper skill and training, a man with curvature can pleasure a woman in places that men with straight penises can't. Unfortunately, very few men with crooked penises are privy to this knowledge. Tragically, most of them are embarrassed about having a crooked penis.

If a man fails to mention that his penis is crooked before he gets married, and he doesn't know how to use the curvature to his advantage, his bride is likely to be unpleasantly surprised. The honeymoon will be a disaster. The breaking of the hymen and penis size are also important issues that need to be understood and explored before marriage.

A Fine Line of Discretion

2011-11-06T17:25:00.000-08:00

A person recently called me and wanted to know how much my services cost. I told him what the suggested love offering donation is, if you feel you have learned something valuable that will benefit you in your personal relationships, otherwise no donation is desired or expected.

He seemed rather sweet, and made an appointment. As I was getting ready for the appointment, he called again. He just had one more question for me. He wanted to know if he would be able to have sex with me. I was immediately filled with fear, dread, repulsion and disgust. I had never even met him and he wanted me to promise that I would have sex. This is an unrealistic expectation, and I suspected he was either a cop trying to make a bust, or ignorant of the law. Either way, I was horrified that I had made an appointment with him.

In addition to feeling disgusted that I had made an appointment with someone who would be so indiscreet, I was terribly disappointed that I couldn't see him because he seemed very sweet the first time we talked. But, as much as I believe the moral laws are antiquated, unconstitutionally vague and over reaching, and they violate our right to pursue happiness, I am not going to break the law. If you want me to promise that I will have sex with you over the phone after I have suggested a love offering donation for a lesson in loving, then you will have to lobby and get the law changed first.

I kindly and gently explained how I was feeling, and told him why. He assured me that he was not a cop. I explained further that it really didn't matter to me whether or not he was a cop. The end result is the same. If he was a cop and I agreed to have sex with him, then all he would have to do is show up at the door, hand me the money, and arrest me. If he is not a cop, sooner or later he is going to come across an undercover policewoman who is pretending to be a service provider and ask her if she will have sex with him. She will say, "Sure baby! Come on over!" When he arrives she will accept his money and a couple of uniformed policemen will step out from behind a closed door and arrest him. When he gets to jail, they will offer to drop the charges against him if he will testify against all of the ladies he has been seeing. So whether he is a cop or not, seeing him could eventually lead to trouble. I felt sick that I had made an appointment with him.

Perhaps men like this have rebellious streak. Perhaps they have a sense of adventure that compels them to take risks. I don't now why some men call on the telephone to find out what the rates are, and then ask if they can have sex with you. I suspect they are simply naive enough to think they can get away with breaking the law without getting busted. Maybe they don't care about getting busted any more than they mind getting a traffic ticket. Perhaps they don't have confidence in their ability to befriend a woman and woo her, or deep enough pockets invest in a massage and some legitimate companionship to see if a friendship develops, nor enough patience to wait for a relationship to develop before asking for sexual favors.

It amazes me that so many men routinely seek reassurance and risk getting busted. And since I don't want to be on the list of names they give to the cops in exchange for getting their charges dropped, I simply won't see them, regardless of what club they happen to be in.

This is how the law works: If you agree to have sex for a specific price, this is illegal. And if the money changes hands, you are eligible to get busted. Period. Why would anyone want to take that kind of a risk, especially when there are perfectly legal and legitimate ways to go about getting your needs met?

This is how the business works: You purchase a massage, or some companionship. You meet the lady in person and the two of you get to know each other. If you like each other, and you want to have sex together, it's private matter, and none of the government's business. But if she shows up, and all you want to know is whether or not you can have sex with her, then she will probably think you are a cop trying to bust her and leave. There are plenty of women who won't have sex with a man until they have been going out regularly for a while. But they aren't usually in the sensual massage or escort business.

Whether an escort thinks you are a cop because you have nothing in common to talk about, and the only thing you can think of to say to her is, "Can we have sex now?" or she simply doesn't do that kind of thing, you don't have to make a second appointment with her. You are free to see somebody else next time. And if you are a revengeful person who feels a need to get even with women who are afraid you might be a cop, join one of the hobby gossip sites and tell all they guys how much money you spent and how disappointed you were that you didn't get to do what you wanted. Then you will be a hero with the guys for warning them, and you can rest assured that you have destroyed her reputation.

Mutual Simultaneous Orgasm Anyone?

2011-11-06T11:10:00.000-08:00

My fetish is mutual simultaneous orgasm. In order to do this, I need to be in a relationship with a lover who would like to have sex with me on a repeated and regular basis for a while, and give me enough time to calibrate my body to his, so I can orgasm with him, upon cue. Getting ready to coordinate a mutual simultaneous orgasm requires conditioning. It takes time for me to develop new muscles and gain the ability to accommodate my lover comfortably with adequate stamina to reach an orgasm at the same time he does. If you are a sexual athlete, I am sure you know what I am talking about.

In the sexual arena, I am the equivalent of a long distance runner who has been racing forty yard dashers for years. As much fun as it is to sprint short distances, there isn't enough time for me to rev up the engine and fly with dashers. And dashers aren't interested in taking flight, anyway. Imagine having a mutual simultaneous orgasm fetish and only being with lovers who would rather have sex with somebody new, than coordinate a mutual simultaneous orgasm. Sex with a dasher is better than no sex at all. But there is also a lot more that can be achieved with conditioning. And I choose to have it all.

Perhaps you are wondering why having a mutual simultaneous orgasm matters?

Because it ignites a frequency that opens the portal to eternal bliss, peace and satisfaction. I have felt this sacred tremor from a distance on numerous occasions. I have been immersed in it twice, but never long enough to reach an orgasm with my lover, nor experience the chemical transformation that causes a permanent state of nirvana. This kind of experience doesn't happen during ordinary sex. And most sex is ordinary sex. I like to call it dasher sex.

Dasher sex doesn't last very long. There is nothing wrong with dasher sex. It can be quite fun and invigorating. But in order to open your wings and fly, you have to get in condition and develop new muscles, much like a baby bird falling from the nest. That is why I am open to meeting an extraordinary lover with enough stamina, flexibility and control to have a real relationship with someone who wants to coordinate a mutual simultaneous orgasm. I gladly welcome into my life a new lover with enough dedication to stay on task until we have developed our ability to coordinate a mutual simultaneous orgasm together. I expect this might take somewhere between six months and two years, if there is genuine mutual intent. If you are skeptical because you have never felt the sacred tremor before, it might even take longer. Indeed, it may not be possible for us.

Should it become apparent to me that us having a mutual simultaneous orgasm together is impossible, I would prefer to move on and have sex with someone else rather than remain in a sexual relationship out of a sense of obligation, and have dutiful sex that is not fulfilling for me.

I am not opposed to spending the rest of my life with my lover, if we turn out to be compatible in that way. But if it turns out that we have nothing in common except sex, then I'd rather explore the possibility of coordinating a mutual simultaneous orgasm with somebody else. Does that make sense to everyone? Are there any skillful sexual athletes out there, willing to take the risk, who might like to coordinate a mutual simultaneous orgasm with me? I am already an orgasmic woman. I frequently have them solo, and also know how to take turns with my lover. What I am talking about is an orgasm of a different dimension. What I am referring to is a consciously coordinated mutual simultaneous orgasm, that is the result of developing an intuition for each other, and triggered by a dignified, respectful, reasonable command.

From personal experience, I can attest that women who are faking it will inevitably turn mean in a relationship. The "fake it till you make it" strategy doesn't work for us. Women who fake it eventually lose hope that a real orgasm is possible. Then they get grouchy and nit-picky about all kinds of other little things, because they have a subconscious desire to end it so they can seek satisfaction elsewhere. They can't simply say "I don't think I am ever going to be able to have an orgasm with you, and I am ready to move on now!" because they have been faking it.

Women are afraid not to fake it, because so many men can't get an erection if we don't. Women are also afraid men will reject them if they don't have an orgasm the first time they have sex. But the female body is designed by nature to morph slowly over time. It takes nine months to make a baby. It takes time for a woman's body to calibrate and climax with a man, too, unless one of them pushes the button and evokes it prematurely with a finger or the tongue. Men who don't understand what it takes to coordinate a mutual simultaneous orgasm, are prone to moving on before a woman has adequate time to calibrate her body. The experience of sex can be rather poignant for a woman who wishes to have a mutual simultaneous orgasm, unless her lover has the same intention, and is committed to staying on task until the mission is accomplished.

Are there any sexual athletes who would like to linger in a relationship and coordinate a mutual simultaneous orgasm? I realize that men gain confidence and skill by having sex with lots of women, and I do not wish to be in a monogamous relationship with anyone. I am only interested in the higher degree of sexual mastery that is attained by staying in sexual relationship together long enough to ignite the sacred tremor and coordinate a mutual simultaneous orgasm together.

Success requires orgasmic exclusivity, dedication, and the ability to make sexual practice that leads to mutual simultaneous orgasm a high priority status in life. In other words we can have sex with anyone we want, but we reserve the sharing of orgasmic energy for each other to insure completion of the process. It is necessary for a man to calibrate his body to a woman's too. This is much more subtle. But the effects are profound. Of course, both partners must agree to wear a condom when having sexual intercourse with anyone else, for obvious reasons. And, spending time with other lovers must necessarily take a back burner to the time reserved for each other, out of respect for the mission, if nothing else, when you are seriously committed to coordinating a mutual simultaneous orgasm together.

If you are a sexual athlete, who would like to coordinate a mutual simultaneous orgasm with someone, and all of this makes perfect sense to you, feel free to contact me. If there isn't any chemistry between us, I can most certainly steer you in the right direction, and offer guidance that will help you attain your goal with someone else.